Originally Answered: Needing advice from teen mommies/daddies?
As you said, you don't want it to all crumble - I'm sorry, but I think you better prepare for it to do just so.
I'm 19 and have a 5 month old (unplanned) daughter. You need to get your life in order... ask yourself HONESTLY:
-Can I afford this baby? (a baby is unbelievably expensive, that $10,000 is not going to go far, trust me)
-Can I continue with my education? (if you want to provide a decent life for your baby you need a decent job)
-Do I have support from my partner? (lots of males split when they realise how hard it is)
-Do I have medical insurance?
-Do I have family support? (your family becomes the most important thing to you)
-Do I have a stable place to live?
-Have I got the patience for a baby relying on me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, for the next EIGHTEEN YEARS? (Baby sitting for your cousins is NOT the same as actually raising your own child.)
-Do I have a car and license to get myself and baby around?
-Can I really give up my freedom, looks, friends (coz trust me, you loose a LOT of them,) buying things for myself, alone time with my partner?
For me the answer was yes to all, I did have to postpone my university studies, but my partner owning his own home and business has meant that we have not had to struggle with finances. Being a mother is lonely, unacknowledged and constant hard work, people who aren't entirely positive that they can cope - should not have children, regardless of their age.
That being said, keeping my baby was the best and most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
It's all personal decision and do what YOU want to do, because whatever choice you make YOU are the one who will have to live with your decision forever.
My life is a bit of a struggle some days, but I just look at my beautiful daughter and know that THIS is what life is all about.
Other than sharing my story, there is no advice I can give you other than to expect the unexpected.