Originally Answered: If my parents get divorced?
If it goes to divorce court, the judge will decide. But children can speak before the judge and tell him or her what they want and why. The older the children are and the more mature they seem, the more likely it is that the judge will grant their wishes in whole or in part.
Custody doesn't have to be all-or-nothing, one parent or the other. Many families go for full legal custody for both parents (each parent gets to be informed and to make decisions about the kids) and 50-50 physical custody: the kids spend equal amounts of time with each parent. This is more expensive, because each parent has to have enough bedroom space, and pay more in rent or property taxes for it, so there's more money going out that way and less for food, phone bills and cool clothes. But many people believe this is the preferred arrangement because the kids still have two parents, not a parent and an uncle. It looks like both your parents could do a good enough job raising you - your mom would keep you straight and focused, your dad would let you relax and, if you don't get too much in trouble, have some fun in life so it doesn't suck as much. This is what you and your sisters should ask for.
Go to your library and get a copy of Watnik's book, and ask the librarian for something more recent too. Don't push it in your parents' faces, but if they find it by accident, maybe they'll chill down in the face of reality and work harder to stay together. And if they don't, you'll be able to do your homework and present a good case for the judge to keep both parents and one another for the three of you. You could write it, like a school essay or report, give the judge a copy for the record, and read it in court; or just paraphrase it and have it with you to fall back on. You're the oldest, and this is your job.
Some time later, after you're done with this, read about domestic violence. Accusations of domestic violence are often made in family court; many of them false. You should know what domestic violence is and what it is not, so you can tell the court what really happens at home and what does not.