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How do I make decisions when writing a wedding guest list?

How do I make decisions when writing a wedding guest list? Topic: How to write a wedding invitation
May 25, 2019 / By Arieh
Question: My wedding package allows me to select 50 people for the ceremony, and 100 altogether for the evening. I assumed it would be easy to keep the number under 25, yet I'm stuck at 32 and the only way I see to reduce that is to remove about 5 invites that are 'polite'. However, this would leave some people with nobody they know, or upset those who aren't invited when they should be. I can invite extra people for £50 a head, but of course I would prefer not to. If this was your wedding, what would you do? Also, do people think that it's more important to invite family I'm not close to than friends that I am close to?
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Originally Answered: Do I have to let guests I invite to my wedding bring a guest we may or may not know?
I'd go ahead and start now, especially if you're sending out save the dates to anyone. I've got about the same time as you do (6-19-10...YAY!), and pretty much have my guest list compiled. Yes, there's probably going to be some additions and deletions, but I've got plenty of time to do it, and I'm planning everything myself (even printing my own invites) so I want to know well in advance roughly how many I'm expecting. (I am having a bit bigger wedding than you are, about 240 people as of now, but for that amount of people, I have a VERY low budget of $5000, and need to get the guest list finalized ASAP so that I can figure out what I can splurge on and what I need to cut back on.) *ADD* I do have a tip to give you. When you get your final guest list figured out, assign each family (invitation wise) a number. Get some index cards and put their name, address, phone number, formal heading (Mr. and Mrs. Jones, etc, if you're going that formal on the invites, and add spots for shower invite sent, save the date sent, invite sent, rsvp received, and thank you sent, and also for any gifts received. Put their corresponding number in the upper right hand corner of the card. When you send out your invites, number the response cards with the numbers. If you're missing # 17, or if they forget to sign it, all you have to do is look at the index card and see who that number corresponds to, and give them a call. You can get a small plastic school box at Walmart for a couple of bucks to store them in. I saw this in some magazine, and agree that it's going to make all this stuff SO much easier! Just thought I'd pass it along.
Originally Answered: Do I have to let guests I invite to my wedding bring a guest we may or may not know?
I would think that since you've already booked your reception site, you have a pretty good idea how many guests are being invited. The list should have been prepared (or an estimate) before selecting your venue...you don't want to be restricted and then find out that you forgot someone important! Best of Luck

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