Do parents exaggerate the joys of parenthood? Does having kids make parents delusional?
Topic: Reference to journal article in paper
June 20, 2019 / By Kingsley Question:
The article references a paper in a psychological journal claiming that, essentially, parents tend to glorify the positive aspects of having kids and dismiss the negative aspects of having kids.
Do you agree or disagree with this?
Best Answers: Do parents exaggerate the joys of parenthood? Does having kids make parents delusional?
Janey | 6 days ago
Well, I'm inclined to agree.
I myself came across a different study (sorry, no links) that illustrated that the average daily happiness of parents is worse that that of non-parents. However, parents would report feelings of tremendous joy punctuating that time frame which 'made it all worth it' such as first steps, first words, etc.
When asked if they were happier overall than before they had kids, parents said that they were. When asked much more specific questions, they were shown to actually be less happy.
This would explain the discrepancy.
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