Topic: Real cold case stories
June 20, 2019 / By Kassia Question:
Okay so, there's these two boys in a girl's life, her ex crush and a guy that will show up in the present time of my story. I wanna know what a guy really feels when he's in love and I wanna know too when he's only playing. please! I want my story to be not all fiction and Mr. perfect. I want it to be real as much as possible. :( :)
Hayley | 4 days ago
Wow that's a big and nearly impossible to answer question, and it delves into some very deep rooted male psyche.
The answer to this vary among guys, but i think the most prevalent and prime feeling that men have when they genuinely and i mean absolutely love a woman, would a sense of altruism and a strong feeling of loyalty to protect and look after her.
Basically a guy will scale mountains and run through forest fires for her if that's what it takes.
When a guy would be "playing" this wouldn't mean he doesn't like her at all or is only with her for sex alone.
Some girls are just way cool and awesome to be with, even though the chemistry is not "sparking" and in that case you will still have that sense of altruism and drive to protect her, only significantly less strong.
And in case he is "playing" purely for having sex, and he doesn't really like her .... well i wouldn't know what a guy would feel, i've never been with girls that i wasn't really interested in, but i'm assuming he would basically feel pretty cold and non-emotional about her, while trying to mask that with shallow and unauthentic statements like "ohw .... i love you too baby" said in a not so convincing way.
A good way to tell i guess (based on my own persona) is that a guy will be fairly easy in saying he loves her when in reality he doesn't
And when a man would love a woman as in head-over-heels in love with a woman, he will find it much harder to express his love to her ... but when he musters the courage to pour his heart out and does so ..... you will know it's genuine.
Just so you know i'm a 21 year old caucasian male.
Guys feel pretty much the same things girls feel.. they just tend not to be as vocal about it. The only reason I know this is because I'm with someone now who tells me exactly how he feels about me.. and it isn't much different from how I feel about him. And to be honest he's usually way better with expressing himself than I am. It's really nice. Sometimes he'll tell me he loves me and that I shouldn't forget it.. as a reminder here and there.
When they're in love.. they're honest about it. Simple.