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My daughters probation officer is wanting to lock her up, for reasons that seem un-fair! Advice? Thank you?

My daughters probation officer is wanting to lock her up, for reasons that seem un-fair! Advice? Thank you? Topic: Teaching writing skills to children
May 26, 2019 / By Aurora
Question: My daughter is on probation for acts she committed a year ago. She has always been very defiant, but two weeks ago she went into a depression and stop wanting to go to school. One of the days she was at school, I was called. She was very upset sitting in the principal office and talking to her PO, just stating she did not know why she did not want to be there. I took her to a hospital where our insurance would authorize 5 half days of out-patient therapy. I relayed this to her PO. The first day she would not go, refused to get out of the car. Her PO asked her to come to his office for a drug test, which she passed and had no reason to detain her so ordered her to go to the treatment on Monday. Monday came and she again she would not go, she did go to my psycho-therapist appointment and my doctor, bless his heart because he normally does not see teens agreed to counselor her. I tried another hospital to get her in-patient and they denied it. Monday evening seemed ok, I relayed to her PO that she was going to start regularly going to therapy with this doctor and her PO said to call if she did not go to school on Tuesday. Tuesday morning came, she was crying and said I cannot do it tell them to just come pick me up, I hate my life. I noticed marks on her arm that looked a couple days old, and she said it was from a few days ago. Her PO put a pick up order on her and she was transported to juvenile. He found a hospital the same day, four hours away that agreed to take her. She has been there for ten days now and being released this morning. After mutilple tests her diagnosis is oppositional defiant disorder, and borderline personality traits. They out her on prozak- for depression and lamitical- for moods( they will not say disorder until she is 18) The two disorders are both treated with psychotherapy and her learning to control her anger and outbursts. In the hospital she did not like the doctors and had some behavioral outbursts, well duh! she has those at home all the time. Her room had holes all over the walls and doors and while she has been gone, we have replaced drywall,her door and painted. We wanted her to come to a new room and not a reminder of past outbursts, and thought if her room was nice she would not want to destroy it. Here goes where I feel I failed... Her PO stated in the beginning that he would hold her the one day transport her to the hospital and she would return to detention for 3- 4 days and return home. He informed me yesterday his intentions because of her behavior is to detain her for over a month. This is his recommendation to the judge, however the counselors at the hosptial I spoke with stated their recomendations were NO residentail care, and NOT to be detained. She needed therapy, which her next appointment is in a week, suppose to be. I am so confused, mad, and angry at myself. She is not going to get better in a cell! Any advice would be appreciated, and sorry I wrote a such a big detail of the last few weeks here. Thank you. To the one who asked if I do not know how to discipline my own child...... One do you have a child with this disorder? Let me ask you, if you were told to FK off and I fking hate you by your own child would you slap them in the face, which is against the law? My child has been defiant for over a year, I paid . not the governement for 15 weeks of classes to teach myself parenting skills for children with behavioral issues. I tried and implemented this approach. Ground her? Well what do you do when the child says fk you and takes off anyways? Lht, I want to thank you for answer and am sorry to hear that your family is going through something similar. Yes I do and have catered to her and your right it may be time for tough love, I have done what I can. It is up to her to get help and I need to realize I have done what I could. Thank you!
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Abbygael Abbygael | 4 days ago
maybe this will teach her a lesson. The girl can use some jail time to make her a littler harder, she seems soft.
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I don't see where the PO is being unfair. Unfair would have been if he had locked her up the first time she refused to go to school. I think this guy really has given your daughter several chances, and it sounds like every time she's given a chance or an opportunity to get help, she acts out. Maybe a little tough love and some time in a cell can help her, because quite honestly, it sounds like you have been pandering to her. She has behavioral outbursts where she punches holes in the wall, and you REWARD her with a nicely painted room? She doesn't want to go to school, she doesn't want to go to treatment, and doesn't think the terms of her parole shouldn't apply to her because she doesn't like it.. If she doesn't "like" someone she has a temper tantrum and punches holes in the wall. I'm sorry, but she needs to cool her heels in a cell for awhile. She's going to have to grow up one way or another, and learn that actions have consequences. I understand she has these disorders, but until she is willing receive the treatment (whether she likes the doctor or not) no one owes her a darn thing..you least of all. The choices she made has landed her where she's at, and maybe it is not up to you to rescue her this time. Only she can do that. This very well might be the first step to recovery for her. Maybe if she sees this is where her choices have led her (instead of mom bailing her out all the time) she'll be ready to make some different choices going forward. THEN and only then can you give her your full support. Think of this as a kind of intervention. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I have a sister in the ssame boat (in fact, you could be my mother posting this!). It's time to let her start helping herself.
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Stanley Originally Answered: Can a Probation Officer become a lawyer?
IF you go to school full-time: 1) Bachelor's degree - four years from a traditional college/university. 2) Take LSAT. 3) Law school - three years. 4) Take Bar Exam in the state where you want to practice. 5) Pass the Character and Fitness Evaluation. TA DA!!! BUT.............. Warning! Jobs in the field of Law are drying up fast!! This is just not a good field to invest time and/or money into. This is a SHRINKING vocational field. Many reasons. Many people today (mistakenly) think they can do their own legal work, thanks to the Internet. Also, we simply already have way too many Legal Professionals - we have an absolute glut!! ("Legal Professionals" includes, but is not limited to: Attorneys/Lawyers, Paralegals, Legal Assistants, Legal Secretaries, Bailiffs, Court Reporters, etc, etc) Regarding being a Paralegal: Employers (usually law firms) in the field of Law today want employees with Bachelors degrees. Those "certificates" you see advertised aren't worth the paper they are printed on - they are generally scams. (I found this out the hard way.) Even if you finish law school, you won't be able to find a job when you are done. Since this vocational field is shrinking, many new attorneys/lawyers are, themselves, having to work "down" as Paralegals, Legal Assistants, Legal Secretaries, Bailiffs, Court Reporters, etc, etc, to simply try to keep some of their bills paid <that the job market/economy is just saturated with way too many Legal Professionals. Instead the schools will feed you a fairytale and will lie to you. The root of the problem is we have too many law schools. We are in a recession, and the schools are fighting for their own survival - they will tell students anything to get to the students' money. (Which is why they won't tell you the truth about the job market for the field of Law.) And these schools continue to recruit and churn out even more graduates............. If you don't believe me, then just do a search here on Yahoo Answers to see what other posters are saying about the current status of the field of Law. Call some local law firms - ask to speak to the Manager of Human Resources - ask them if they are hiring; ask them what they think about job availability in the field of Law.................. In the book "So You Want to be a Lawyer?" by Marianne Calabrese and Susanne Calabrese (ISBN 0-88391-136-1): "The United States has more lawyers than any other country in the world. About 38,000 students graduate >each year< from the 200+ law schools in the United States. The competition is very keen for jobs and clients." - Even Associate Justice Antonin Scalia (who served on the U.s. Supreme Court for more than 20 years) says there are too many lawyers. (9/14/2008) If you want a job when you are done with your studies, consider and look into the field of healthcare! I spoke to a career counselor from Jobs and Family Services, and HE told me that this is where the jobs are, and future job availability! and scholarships! Good luck. (This was intended as personal opinion, and not intended to be used as legal advice.)
Stanley Originally Answered: Can a Probation Officer become a lawyer?
Speaking as the author of the job search book "Think Like an Interviewer: Your Job Hunting Guide to Success," let me answer your question. There are many people like you who work in other areas of law and then decide to become lawyers. So the answer to your question is yes, you could become a lawyer. But you'd still have to go through the same process as anybody else! The only difference is that you'd have a better understanding of the legal system and laws because you'll have the experience of working in law enforcement. However, you'd still need to go to law school and pass the State Bar exam.

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