How am I supposed to get over this extremely painful break up?
Topic: How to write a person screaming
May 22, 2019 / By Belphoebe Question:
We were together for over 3 years and during a simple argument that wasn't even serious he told me he was sick of fighting and was so much happier without me. He said he needed space to think about things and a month and a half later he admitted he didn't want to try "now" but maybe some day in the far future.
We have been through so much. I have absolutely no friends because I moved to be with him. I have no life without him. I am in so much pain it is making me physically sick.
I don't want anyone else and I can't even think about meeting someone new.
Please help me get over this pain. I can't think about anything else and I can't stop crying.
How am I supposed to move on from someone who became my total world?
I DON'T HAVE ONE SINGLE FRIEND!
HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND AND MY ONLY FRIEND!
Please read the whole question.
I have nobody else but him. I never really had too many friends in the first place, and I lost them all when I moved. I have nobody.
Best Answers: How am I supposed to get over this extremely painful break up?
Adrianah | 9 days ago
Examine what happened and ask yourself why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this may not be entirely your fault - or not your fault at all. Really thinking about the reasons it ended can make it clearer to you that it takes two people to start a relationship, but one discordant person is enough to end it. It may also help you avoid missteps in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship.
Accept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt, feel alone, and feel like you have messed up. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy, but you must also accept that you are a good person, and this is not all one-sided. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to begin to move on.
Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no Instant Messaging, and most importantly, no sex - not necessarily as a permanent measure (except where sex is concerned), but until you feel that you can converse with him/her like a normal person, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive).
Think through everything in your head. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason. Consider all the reasons you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end, right? If there was a reason, but it wasn't a "good one," then understand that you enjoyed one another for a while, but if that was enough to be a determining factor in continuing with the relationship, then clearly, there was something else wrong.
Deal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the split was, how it occurred (was there infidelity? That makes it worse), and how long it took to make the break. There may be feelings of resentment at your ex for wasting your time. You may realize the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel like you hate yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change.
Write all your feelings down. Write in a journal or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper. Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" valuable life lessons from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be. Allow at least the learning part to enrich your life.
Clean up! A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come. A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just add to your stress level. The added bonus is that keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain. Occupying yourself with these tasks designed to make your life better and easier will also occupy your mind enough to help you through the residual pain.
Keep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. Well, instead of feeling that way, turn the station and move on.
Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. As they say, the best revenge is living well.
Stay active. It's scientifically confirmed that exercise improves your mood, and the distraction will help keep your mind off the situation. Go running outside, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.
Let go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways, congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
Take Time. Find a place where you feel comfortable, relaxed, and which is far away from your ex. Take a moment to listen, and to be alone or with someone you trust. Remind yourself that it is better to be on your own than to continue in a relationship that was not right for one or both of you.
Think Positively. Now that you're not with your ex, you can date other people - go ahead, this is okay. You're free - only your actions and thoughts free you from what you cannot control. Change your behaviors; that will help change your thinking. Of course, don't forget about respecting other peoples' thoughts and feelings while feeling released and free, and always remember to be true to yourself.
Don't rethink your decision. If you keep thinking about all the good times you have you will forget the reason for why you are actually breaking up. This is not good because you will just go back to square one especially if you regret it (after) the breakup.
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I just answered a question similar to what I am about to say,
Like you , he was my world but he didn't respond the way I needed him to, and for years I was very unhappy. My thought about it was that I don't think he was happy either or maybe more unhappy because he started cheating. So, to make a long story short, I broke it off since he wasn't man enough to do it himself. Well, he went on to persue that thing he was persuing and it failed. He then got on the phone and was caling me. O-o-o-o-o what sweet revenge was that, that I didn't have to do anything to see him damaged. And to this day he calls and he cries about getting back with your girl, mercy!
And I mean, years have passed now and he is still doing this.
Well, if he had been a man about things the outcome would be a lot bareable for him. He's made his bed and now he must lye in it. And, baby, we were together 7or8 yrs. It was time to move on, so I did. But in your case, finding someone else will help you to draw your attention on to a different guy.
Concentrate on better than. You will be happier, I promise.
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I hate to say this but its just gonna take time. In the mean time spend as much of your time with friends. Focus on yourself. Watch funny movies, do facials and just take some time to try and feel better. The more time that passes the better it will be I promise. Also, when you feel like your about to lose it call one of your close friends. I"m sure they will be happy to help you. I wish you all the best girl. I'm sorry this happened!
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if he said he was better off without you then you should just go out with your friends and TRY to find someone new.
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