My boyfriend who is 19 wants to join the army?
Topic: Writing letters to army boyfriend
May 25, 2019 / By Debbie Question:
Ok, first off let me say this: I'm 16, almost 17. He's 19, almost 20. We've been together for two years and have been best friends for 10 years. He's a freshman in college, I'm a Junior in high school. I completely 120% support our troops; I have two cousins, an uncle, and a best friend who are already in the armed forces.
My 19 year old boyfriend wants to join the army... and keep our relationship going. I only hesitate because of our age differences. I love him so much, but I feel like I'm too young to be in that position. Honestly, I realize how selfish I sound but the thing is I'm only 16. I'll be a senior next year. I shouldn't have to worry about my boyfriend dying in Iraq... I should be worrying about college and what dress am I going to wear to prom. If we were both in college, I would be okay with it... I don't want to break up, but I don't think I could be an army "girlfriend". I see my cousin's wives and my aunt do it, and my best friend's girlfriend do it and I hold her when she cries and I don't know if I'm strong enough. I love him a lot, but I just don't think it's a good idea. I don't want to write a Dear John letter... ever. Maybe in a few years I'd be okay with it but not now. I don't know what to do. I guess I just need somebody to tell me the obvious.
P.s. Yeah, I know I'm being selfish. So don't point it out.
Best Answers: My boyfriend who is 19 wants to join the army?
Britannia | 9 days ago
Your answer you know and have said in your above statement
You already know what to do
No one can tell you the best move for this
What I can say is if his heart is on this; he may need to do it
It makes no sense hanging on; set him free with a happy heart
Wishing him all success in his life and pray for him, where he is going he will need it
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Originally Answered: How do you join the Army?
How to join the army? First remove your brain, then go along to the nearest recruiting station and tell them you want to die defending the interests of corporate America, under the guise of freedom and democracy. Tell them that, like every soldier before you, you are prepared to go to war over mineral wealth, foreign markets, areas of influence, trade routes (all sources of profit for the master class). And they'll say "sign right here, son."
If that's too hard, read my blog article on kids joining the army at:
and bear in mind the famous words of Major General Smedley D Butler (USMC):
"I spent thirty-three years and four months in active military service as a member of this country’s most agile military force, the Marine Corps. I served in all commissioned ranks from Second Lieutenant to Major-General. And during that period, I spent most of my time being a high class muscle-man for Big Business, for Wall Street and for the Bankers. In short, I was a racketeer, a gangster for capitalism. I suspected I was just part of a racket at the time. Now I am sure of it. Like all the members of the military profession, I never had a thought of my own until I left the service. My mental faculties remained in suspended animation while I obeyed the orders of higher-ups. This is typical with everyone in the military service."
Do something useful, anything, just don't go killing people you have no grievance against to make a bunch of fat crooks back home rich. You're a member of the working class. If you want to go to war, join the class war and help us fight our rulers on the battlefield of ideas - its far more rewarding too and you'll win far more respect from decent folk!
Ultimately it's his decision and though you can add your opinion he'll probably do whats best for him in the end. You two need to have a conversation about why you feel its a bad idea and just explain to him how you feel. Right now it's just a thought. The military is a great thing, but its not for everyone. It can help pay for college and maybe that's what he's after.
You seem like your stronger than you realize. It's not like anything is going to happen right away. Things take time. He will have to go through physicals and actually sign, and it could take a while. It just depends. And then he has to go through basic, and maybe ait training. I vaguely know what I'm talking about here. Basic is like 6-8 weeks. And then AIT lasts for like 6-8 weeks again. And then you have to add the down time that they are actually home. And there is so many options like ROTC and reserves and active. It honestly just depends. Though if he does join, I think you'd be okay. That'd be the time where you lean on your friends and those you've helped to return the favor.
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Love is selfish. You reaction seems fine to me. If you love him, continue the relationship. Its only 3 years a difference!
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maybe u should sit down and explain your feelings about this situation and maybe he will think about it and say "well maybe she's right, she needs me" or maybe he'll snap on you and say your being selfish just like your saying you sound. no matter what this situation will reveal your relationships destiny.
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its his life,
Plus what if he cant afford college?
hes only going to be gone for a few years,
by the time hes back you should be graduating from highschool
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Originally Answered: Should i Join the Army?
I say join! i love it best decision of my life. you get to meet great ppl that you make lifelong bonds with, the pays pretty good especially on deployment, you stay in pretty good shape, you travel, you get insurance and housing and if you choose the right MOS you can get a bonus, anywhere from $5,000 to $50,000